There’s always a mystery around what kind of men women usually go for. But it isn’t classified information anymore and we all know that. Women fall for two broad categories of men. The first category are your ‘bad boys’ and the second category are the ‘nice guys’, who presumably finish last. But the mystery around why women fall for either is still debatable. So, you can either be a jerk or the nicest guy in the world, according to some scrupulous research over the years on this very topic, women go through phases of falling for either and the secret is, you really have to know what phase they’re going through and when.
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I recently figured out when I was out into the ‘nice guy’ category by a woman who wanted to settle down. Not necessarily with me but I was a sure shot candidate. And she classified me under ‘the nice guy’. That’s when I figured what women want and when they want it and they distinctively have two pronounced phases in their life where they want either.
Why Do Women Go For Jerks, Ass***** And Bad Boys
It’s no fallacy that women do go for bad boys , sometimes consciously. Bad boys are like an antidote for a bad situation and they make the situation better or worse, depending on the state she is in. There can be many reasons women are attracted to bad boys and they choose them over inherent good guys, at first.
(1)Women Are Drawn To Bad Boys For Flings
Bad boys shy away from commitment because most times they’re narcissism get’s way ahead of them. So, if she’s going through a bad dating spell she might just automatically be drawn towards someone who’s a complete commitment phobic and gives her adequate space. Girls also like bad boys doing a bad period because they know a bad boy will bail right on time, when things do get a little intense. So, it’s her subconscious attempt to heal, through some attention and validation, through a fling.
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(2) There Isn’t A Dearth Of Bad Boys
While men do take time to mature, they all go through a phase where they just want to have fun and not get too serious in life and in relationships. Women function differently though and that’s also very chemically and hormonally inclined. But because boys are in the phase of metamorphosis, they’re termed as ‘bad boys’ and they’re plenty of them. Boys who don’t want to commit, boys who’re a bit careless with people’s feelings and boys who are narcissistic in nature. They’re out there and when women are done with a long term relationship or are going through a heart break, they’re out there, waiting in numbers, to make them feel good about themselves, temporarily.
(3) Ovulation Makes Women Think Sexy-Hot Boys Make Better Mates
This is a well driven theory, where women look for a temporary solution to their future woes. They overlook the nice guys sometimes and want a bad boy to procreate with. Why? Because even if she’s not too keen on having kids, her hormones will urge her to seek bad boys so they can make good baby daddies and her kids can be blessed with some good looking genes. According to various studies, evolution pushes women to look for ‘sexier’ men with obvious ‘alpha’ male traits. That’s because their hormones tell them that sexier men will make better mates than their dependable, ‘beta’ counterparts. But this can also be a temporary thought process as women seek bad boys only through a phase.
The bad boy phase doesn’t last for too long in a woman’s life and it comes early on, when she’s confused about her decisions or when she’s going through a terrible heartbreak and needs quick validation. After she’s sorted, she moves over to the other phase in life. Seeking the beta’s, aka the ‘nice guys’.
Nice Guys Finish Last
This statement is every bit true. The phase where women do want nice guys is right in the end. It’s when she’s done dating jerks and non-committed folks, she wants a more dependable and trusting partner. It’s woman nature, TBH and you really can’t challenge it. She also looks for some bad boy qualities in her beta male. Like good looks, a good body and a good job, but the man has to be dependable and absolute marriage material. It’s sort of looking for a man who has it all. And that’s not her conscious decision trust me. Those are her fertility hormones that make her want to procreate with the good mix of both alpha and beta.
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Sometime women may want an alpha in her partner but because alpha males are usually ‘bad boys’, she goes for a beta. He may not be good looking, he may not be an extrovert but he has a good head on his shoulder and she can depend on him with her life and that’s where nature vs nurture come in. She goes for his personality to mate with him, in order to have a life partner who will always be committed and faithful to her.
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In conclusion, if you ever wonder what a woman wants, figure out what phase she’s in first. If she’s in phase 1, where she’s dating random men and having flings she’s most likely to date all the bad boys in town. If she’s in phase 2, then inevitably, she’d want to date someone who can take care of her and nurture her zeal to procreate and settle down. What you need to do is be who you and figure the kind of partner you want to attract. Fine tune yourself to be what she wants in life and also figure her specific desires.